Testimonials – EFT4Vets http://www.eftforvets.com Healing War Trauma, One Soldier At A Time Tue, 05 Sep 2017 19:32:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8.2 http://www.eftforvets.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/cropped-Screenshot-2015-08-10-14.58.19-32x32.png Testimonials – EFT4Vets http://www.eftforvets.com 32 32 Testimonial from a Veteran of the war in Bosnia on EFT for self help http://www.eftforvets.com/802/testimonial-from-a-veteran-of-the-war-in-bosnia-on-eft-for-self-help/ http://www.eftforvets.com/802/testimonial-from-a-veteran-of-the-war-in-bosnia-on-eft-for-self-help/#comments Tue, 31 Aug 2010 21:11:46 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=802 EFT help for PTSD. Self help for PTSD.

Hello to all who read this testimonial concerning my recovery from a massive Panic Attack using EFT.

I received complete recovery for that particular event through Tapping.

A short history of me: Basically I was a driver on convoys in Croatia and Bosnia in early 90’s before the Dayton Agreement.

Our rules of engagement were simple:  If anyone fires at you, #1 don’t fire back, #2 if someone from our contingent is killed or wounded severely, put the person in back of the truck and keep going, do not fire back. #3 in dark humour amongst ourselves was quake like a sitting duck. We had 90 bullets, trust me they counted them all at the end of tours. If one of us from the United Nations Protection Force fired his/her rifle and hit a belligerent, they would be sent back to Canada to PROVE their innocence.

Any how that was my ride over there and needless to say I came back fucked up. It took 6 years for the PTSD, Combat Stress etc… to go full throttle on my brain, body and soul, the latter being the worst in my opinion. More than fifteen years has past and I am still fucked up, but not nearly as bad.

By now all of you who have PTSD, know where I am coming from. So on to Tapping. I have been tapping now for a few months. I am blessed that my wife stuck around to basically force me into doing EFT. I’ll tell you that I did not think this would work. It probably took me a month to clue in that changes were happening, even then I dissmissed it as coincidence. The thing is I don’t believe in coincidence, I would allow 5% of happenings to coincidence.

That’s just me, point being I began to pay closer attention to what was happening during and after tapping. I want to stress the fact that I have been tapping only one hour per week, with the assistance of a great Healer of the Soul Ingrid. ONE HOUR PER WEEK!!! 1 hour is a fucking mountain when you feel nothing and care for little. Apologies for the three paragraphs that don’t include the reason of me writing this. As I said I’ve been tapping for a few months.

Now forget everything I wrote. 2 nights ago at 0315hrs (3:15am) Nightmare, went from laying to sitting position in a split second. I was drenched with sweat like if someone had pissed all over me and a Massive panic attack followed. While in the attack zone I went down stairs, checked everything and lit up a smoke in front of the fireplace. I was shaking from both hands this time and my legs felt like jello, I also had this little taste of metal under the tongue. I went to my medication cabinet, took a couple of my meds to get out of it. Only one problem my benzo’s only kick in about one half hour after taking it, about the same for my sleeping meds. So I knew that I had a half hour to go before things would change. Back to my smoke and the fireplace…………since I had time to kill.

I figured I would Tap on this Panic Attack, follow Ingrid’s way. The Tapping was a bit all over the place, LOL, but it  worked. I probably tapped for five minutes, my smoke was out, burned on its own. I got up from my sitting position. Here we go I felt no pain, not in my brain, not in my body, not in my soul. I took this as a welcome invitation to go back to sleep……..and I actually fell asleep. There is no way in hell that my meds got to me in five minutes. I can only say that I tapped my way out of it, period. Next day I woke with a smile and had a great day. I am going to continue to tap and free myself from the ghosts that haunt all of us.

I’ve been on so many types of pills and therapies in my life that I think it is awesome that I could end my massive panic attack with mind, body and soul in five minutes with EFT!

I just hope that YOU give it a try. Give it one month, what do you have to lose. This was my experience I hope it helps my brothers and sisters. ALL GAVE SOME, SOME GAVE ALL

KFL

P.S. Ingrid, thank you so much for your kindness and for pushing me to keep going!”/speman-discount-price”>.

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Testimonial http://www.eftforvets.com/367/testimonial-2/ http://www.eftforvets.com/367/testimonial-2/#comments Sat, 16 Jan 2010 17:02:09 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=367 Thank you so much for working with me! I can’t believe the difference that 6 hours of EFT have made for me.

As a Vietnam Veteran I see that if we could get people who come right from the zone and teach them how to tap, they wouldn’t have to go through 40 years of shit like I had to.

Thank you for EFT4Vets!

R.

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Conversation and Testimonial of a Military Mother http://www.eftforvets.com/352/conversation-and-testimonial-of-a-military-mother/ Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:54:06 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/352/conversation-and-testimonial-of-a-military-mother/ Part of the mission for this blog is to help practitioners understand the world of Veterans and their families. Only if we understand what Veterans and military families are going through can we find ways to reach out effectively.

I have said many times that, no matter how good we might be in our field, connecting with a Veteran is always personal. Hardly ever is it possible to make an announcement and have many people show up and be interested.

Learning how to reach out, earning our access to the person and communicating in an appropriate way is important.

I just had the following communication with a military mother. She allowed for me to publish it with the hopes that she can help others understand.

I am very grateful for this, and pray that her son will reach out and get help whenever he is ready.

*Mother: I have been researching PTSD for sometime. I believe my Army Veteran son-age 27-would benefit from EFT. What do we do next? I am grateful for the information provided by your website and newsletters.

Comfort and joy,  S.

*Ingrid: Hi S.,

Thank you for your email. I’d be glad to talk with you and your son. I have been working with many Veterans and military families and see tremendous benefits in improvement of sleep, over all relaxation, release of guilt and hyper vigilance, sadness, numbness and disconnect, to name only a few.

Please call me Mo-Fr 8:30am-3:00pm (EST): (603) 746-2328

Thank You

Ingrid

I then called her a few days later to follow up.

*Mother: Ingrid,

There are not words to adequately describe my feelings as I listened to your voice mail last week.  The simple fact you took the time to call about my Army Veteran son was very much appreciated.  I know we will be calling you soon.

Blessings and light, S.

*Ingrid: S.,

I am wondering if you would allow me to use your kind email as a testimonial on my website. Creating trust and rapport is so hard, as you know, and when something is said by a family member, it accounts for so much more  than when I say it.

I’d be happy to change your name to keep it anonymous. Thanks so much!

I continue to pray that your son will connect with me.

Love Ingrid

*Mother: You may use my email, of course.  Change the name, use my first or initials only all are fine with me.  My son’s health-emotion, mental and physical are very important to me.  For you to take the time to first respond to my email and then to actually call me placed me on the most incredible emotional high….someone cares too!  Wow!

Blessing and light, S.

*Ingrid: Thanks S.!

Many, many people care. A lot! This is why we are doing this.

The hardest thing for us is to actually make the first connection, as avoidance and mistrust are such profound symptoms that many Veterans bring home.

I know you are going through a lot right now. Seeing your own son suffer and be changed must hurt a lot.

Please know that you are in my prayers.

Love

Ingrid

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I hope that you can see how lonely the situation for many military family members is, and how much they wish that someone could help their loved one. This is one of the most loving and gentle communities that I have ever met. So much caring, so much concern.

When we reach out and try to spread the word about EFT or any other healing modality or support, we will most likely have to do this one person at a time, taking the time, honoring the concerns, listen to the stories and objections.

This takes time and commitment, of course. however, not taking this time can make the difference between someone finding the courage to accept support, or not being able to reach out.

Many, many people are needed to help Veterans and their families heal! And the first true connection will always be personal.”/cilostazol-online-lloyds”>.

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Testimonial from Jim, a disabeled Veteran http://www.eftforvets.com/335/testimonial-from-jim-a-vietnam-veteran/ Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:21:58 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/335/testimonial-from-jim-a-vietnam-veteran/ Dear Ingrid,

Thank You very much for the session we had this evening. To say it was enlightening would be an understatement.

So many traumas in my life were hit on, I am amazed. Even now, half and hour after we hung up the phone, things are popping up in my mind and I have the ability to see them from a different point of view, a different acceptance level. I couldn’t tell you when the last time in my life was when I was this relaxed.

It will take some time for this new person to show to others in this house the difference in me because of the ongoing tension that is here. I know that when others see how I am acting and showing feelings they will wonder what has happened.

We spoke of the black hole in my heart and tapped on it until the hole closed. I can look back now and say that this black hole was actually bigger than the quarter I stated during our session. It was only at that point that I realized it was actually showing itself to me. I also understand it was the 9 yr old little boy who made it shown as a gesture of asking for help for the “rest of the problems” to be accepted and finally closed off. I never expected that 9 year old to surface like he did and in such a matter of fact way.

Our session showed to me that traumatic stressors come in many ways in our life and the way we react is because of the way we have been brought up and told how to handle things. Mostly, we are told “NOT” to react and just accept for acceptances sake and go on. We are never told how to act and react and go through the emotions that are attached to the situations.

In my situation, we started the session working on my left rotator cup problems. Quickly things changed to dealing with anger. First anger toward my rotator cup, then to my home problems. Then when least expected, to anger over losing my mother when I was 9 years old.

As that anger was targeted, there was suddenly this “black hole” in my heart that was visible. Only a quarter in size showing, I know it must have been much larger in the beginning, possibly larger than the heart itself(much larger). This black hole contained many angers towards many people and many situations I had never been taught how to deal with and understand. We tapped on these people and situations until the hole shrank and I was calmer. Then we tapped some more and some more until the black hole closed completely and I was totally calm and even chuckling some.

As our session came to a close, I realized that I could look back on my mother’s death and no longer have an overwhelming feeling of loss. I could look back and give help and protection to that 9 year old now that I know what is was all about with my mother. Now, if he reaches out I will be there for him.

I was able to look back at situations like a movie in which I was in the middle but also I was outside looking in without those emotions again. I could be watching and be detached at the same time. I never in a million years did I think I could look back on my own mother’s death and other situations and feel detached and calm. I am so calm while typing this and normally by now I would be in tears and upset to the max.

I have even had some flashbacks of personal situations that happened while I was in the military. This session showed me that past situations whether they be military or civilian, can be seen and handled in a different manner.

We tried more tapping on my shoulder until an impasse was hit. My arm would not move further without severe pain. It had improved even though not the outcome fully wanted. It was decided to go no further and let the doctors do what they do best..

I would be more than willing to talk to anyone and tell how different I felt before and after our session. I hope this testimonial has enough in it for you.

As I said before we hung up the phone, “I HUMBLY AND GRATEFULLY THANK YOU INGRID!”

Jim

(609) 479-6054

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Update from “Robert” http://www.eftforvets.com/327/update-from-robert/ Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:58:09 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/327/update-from-robert/ Robert and I did another EFT session on numerous of the issues he has been through as a Vietnam combat medic and paramedic. I just received this email from him:

“I’m singing the praises of you and EFT everywhere I go… Amazing. I’m down to 1 and a half vicodine a day; when I met you I was taking 4 a day. Talk soon… R”

The physical changes, the release of his restless leg syndrome, as well as the huge improvement in his sleep were some astounding components of his improvement.

But what delighted him the most was that he can now talk about the death of his buddies and his first patient in Vietnam without any of the emotional upset he had endured before. As a matter of fact, losing his first patient had been so difficult for him to talk about, that he had never mentioned it to others before our session.

We also released the guilt and shame he felt over other situations in his life, when he saved other people’s lives, but could not acknowledge the heroism he had shown. More about this  in the next post.

It is such an honor to be able to facilitate this work.

“Robert” is available for you to talk to. If you would like to learn more about EFT4Vets and his progress, please send me an email: ingrid@eft4vets.com, and I will forward it to him.

Thank you!

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EFT…a miracle for Veterans? A Testimonial from a Vietnam Veteran http://www.eftforvets.com/309/eft-a-miracle-for-veterans-a-testimonial-from-a-vietnam-veteran/ Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:31:48 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=309 I just received this email from one of my Vietnam Veterans, who was a medic and then a first responder for many years.
He sent this out to his friends and Vet councelor, and gave me permission to post it.
To protect his privacy, I have changed his name to Robert. He is very excited to talk to other Veterans and practitioners about his experiences.
Please send me an email if you’d like to connect with him.

Here is “Robert’s” email:
Hi Folks,
Most of the people I’m sending this video to are vets or vet counselors, for reasons that will become obvious. To them I have this to say: Ingrid Dinter (on the video) did a 4 hour EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) session with me last week… those hours were filled with some of the most emotionally charged moments of my life.
I told her one of the biggest problems in my life was RLS (restless leg syndrome), mostly because I’ve had to take Vicodin for over a year to manage it.
The VA has had me on every drug available to treat this problem over the last 4 or 5 years… some worked for as long as 2 years, but then Vicodin (a narcotic) was the only thing I could count on to allow me to sleep at night. When the RLS began, I would go 3 days without sleep putting me at times at the brink of suicide. I actually thought of asking doctors to amputate my legs… yes, it was that bad. About 3 hours into the EFT session, the RLS in my legs had disappeared… and I hadn’t taken any Tramadol or Vicodin that day… the 2 drugs I use to manage my RLS.

This week I was schedule to meet with an ortho surgeon at the VA because my Baker’s cysts (fluid sacs behind the knee) caused so much pain when standing that I was starting to use a cane again. The swelling behind the knees was visible to both my doctors.
The cortisone shot that the surgeon gave me a year ago, which relieved the pain up until recently, then it came back. (The pain on standing and sitting was 8 on a scale of 1 to 10… 10 being the worst pain I’ve ever felt.)

I told Ingrid about the Baker’s cysts simply because I winced in pain when I stood up to go to the bathroom; the fact that the pain has disappeared is a side effect of our work together, and it was not a separate issue we adressed. Another thing that really blew me away was this: My pain when standing went from an 8 to a 1 or 2. I’m still baffled… and cancelled the surgery!

I had been taking an absolute minimum of 40 mg. of Vicodin a day to control the RLS (usually more like 60 mg). In the last two days, I’ve taken 25 mg each day and have had the best two nights sleep in as long as I can remember. (It’s 3:00pm and so far today I’ve taken 5 mg. I have never taken less than 20 mg at a time to get results.)

Now to another aspect of this 4 hour session: After 40 years of suffering from guilt and a feeling of inadequacy, I finally realized that my “job” as am medic with my first patient in Vietnam who was one of five victims from a direct hit by an RPG (rocket propelled grenade), was to be with him, comfort and reassure him while he was dying. I didn’t know that until a few days ago while doing EFT with Ingrid. I felt horrible that I couldn’t save his life, even though there was nothing I could have done for him medically. I drank, smoked pot, took acid, shot heroin, cocaine, speed, barbiturates, valium, demerol… in the early 70’s I put anything and everything into my arm to get relief from the guilt and nightmares. One of the main reasons I was chemically dependent (mostly pot and booze) until I was 36 was because I felt so guilty that I couldn’t save that kid who was full of shrapnel… not to mention the guilt because I was supposed to be with my crew the day all of them were killed by a mine.
When I just wrote that last sentence, I did not shake or feel any anxiety whatsoever; before this one EFT session last week, that wouldn’t be possible. In the past, I was sometimes able to hide the emotional turmoil externally, but internally I was always a nervous wreck.

EFT is not just for vets… it’s for anyone who has experienced any form of traumatic stress: traffic accident, spousal abuse, rape… for some it can come from simply witnessing a traumatic event. I’m thinking there are few people on this planet who would not benefit from this “miracle” of non-invasive treatment for certain psychological disorders… keep in mind, I’m not a therapist and don’t even play one on TV. Please don’t hesitate to write or call if you have any questions you think I might be able to answer.

In Kindness
“Robert”

Here’s the link: http://www.emofree.com/splash/video_vets.asp

In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s there are few.

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A Vietnam Veteran’s complex healing story http://www.eftforvets.com/307/a-vietnam-veterans-complex-healing-story/ http://www.eftforvets.com/307/a-vietnam-veterans-complex-healing-story/#comments Mon, 21 Dec 2009 19:39:55 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/307/a-vietnam-veterans-complex-healing-story/ Most Veterans cases that I work with with EFT coaching are very complex, spanning over childhood trauma, often abuse, neglect, abandonment, through trauma with peers, boot camp, war experience, returning home and all the relationship and every day issues that result from this.

It never fails to surprise me to see how thoroughly and lastingly we can help with EFT. I hope that the following case also makes a strong argument that working with Veterans requires extensive experience in EFT and knowledge and understanding about war trauma, in addition to having done one’s own “homework”, so that the stories we work with don’t trigger us as practitioners.

As EFT coaches, we have to know and work within our professional and ethical boundaries and know when to refer.

I’d like to share the story of one of my Vietnam Veterans. “Joe” came to me with a huge load of trauma, from earliest childhood, neglect and abuse, a spiritual upbringing of undeservingness and fearing a punishing god, to a very traumatic deployment (even though he stated for a long time that Vietnam was the easiest time in his life…). Joe became an alcoholic and lived on the streets, went through two marriages and from one trauma into the next. When I met him, he had taken a very spiritual approach to healing and was determined to get well. He had used the VA system for 20 years. He actively participated in AA meetings and PTSD groups and treatment. And on top of all this, he suffered from a broken heart through a relationship with a lady who had survived unimaginable abuse in her life and was not able to return his feelings at the time.

Joe was far from being well. Even though we had agreed to work over the phone, as he lives quite a ways away from me, he insisted on having to see me first eye to eye, to check me out. This is very important for many of my Veterans, and I usually take at least two hours to sit down and let them ask all their questions and talk. If they don’t trust me, they don’t care how effective EFT can be. Trust and rapport are of the essence.

Joe had remarkable successes with our EFT sessions. However, no matter how much we got released, the broken heart haunted him. He simply could not get over that unfulfilled relationship.

Since Joe had so much on his plate, we addressed some Vietnam memories, with the intensity going to zero, shifting from rage and fear to compassion, but also did quite a bit of work on his abusive and neglectful childhood and his fear and rage of God’s punishment, as he found them to be more dramatic than his Vietnam memories.

In our last session, he told me that he realized that in 20 years at the VA, he had not once addressed a memory from Vietnam with his therapist. So I told him that it might be time to begin healing some of his Vietnam trauma that he was not ready to share until then.

I asked him if it felt safe to think about a traumatic memory early on in his deployment. He and I have excellent rapport and experience in working together, so this was a safe question. If he had been a “new Vet”, I would have been even more careful in not having him tune in.

He immediately brought up a memory of when he was just two weeks in Vietnam: He remembered sitting with in the back of a military truck, watching a petite, Vietnamese woman with a blue dress on a bicycle on the side of the road. He was stunned and full of admiration at her ability to gracefully balance a large basket with pottery on her head while steering herself through traffic.

He was shocked when he saw one of his buddies pull out his gun and “just for fun” tried to shoot the basket of her head. He missed the basket, and shot her instead. She fell against the truck, and “Joe” grabbed her hand, trying to pull her into the truck. She slipped away, disappeared under the truck and got rolled over.

His “buddies” were very angry at him for trying to help the lady. They immediately turned against him with a sharp warning: “If this ever happens again, you are a dead man!”

We tapped on every aspect of the trauma: His rage and anger about the soldiers, all aspects of the young woman, his helplessness, the feeling of her hand in his, the sound of her head hitting the truck, the shock of seeing her disappear under the truck, the helplessness. We also worked on his fear of his fellow soldiers killing him in his sleep, as violence was a frequent occurrence where he was stationed and more than once he tried to save Vietnamese women from violence and rape. He always saw himself as the protector, and more than once was threatened for that. He was surrounded by rage and numbness in overwhelming and scary ways.

One of the last aspects we tapped on was the vision of blue dress the woman wore. At that moment, he had a very powerful revelation: ”You won’t believe this! It is the dress! Guess who else wears a blue dress!” Through the tapping, he realized that the woman he is so passionately, almost obsessively (in his own words) in love with, also wears a blue dress frequently, as it is her favorite piece of clothing.

He immediately made the connection between the two women, and everything became very clear in his mind: He couldn’t protect the Vietnamese woman from the abuse through the men, he wanted protect his lady friend now. He tried to rescue her for what he was not able to do in Vietnam. This understanding was completely overwhelming for him. He shook his head in disbelief, stunned at what he had lived with all these years. He knew that it was now OK to let go of his obsession for his lady friend. He now felt safe to let it go, and the overwhelming “thing” that this love had become, released.

We could now work on finding peace with the Vietnamese woman and what happened, in a way that felt appropriate and right for him:

“Even though I might have made a vow back then that I would honor her memory with never ending grief and rage, I allow myself to find an even better way to honor her and what happened.” “Even though I am so sorry for what happened to her, what these SOB did, I tell her now that I am sorry and ask for forgiveness that I couldn’t save her – I wished all these years that there would have been something I could have done.”

“Even though I was shocked and scared when I realized what kind of guys I was surrounded with, I choose to see that I have been safe for many years now, whether I realized and felt that or not.”

TH: I am sorry for what happened – IE: I wish I could have done something – anything to stop it

OE: I still hurt and I never forgave myself UE: And I never forgave them

UN: These SOBs!!! UL: F…n SOBs

CB: I am so sorry! UA: I wish there was anything I could have done for you that would have changed what happened

TH: I would have sacrificed my life for you – but even that wouldn’t have made a difference!

TH: I honor that I did the best I could

IE: I ask for your forgiveness

OE: I honor that I never forgot you

UE: And I know that if I could have, I would have saved you

UN: I realize that You might have known that

UL: I realize that You knew I was trying to help

CB: And even though I never forgave me or them

UA: I see that you never held this against me

TH: You knew I was trying to make this undone, otherwise you wouldn’t have reached out and grabbed my hand.

And then came another healing:

“Even though I will never forgive these SOB for killing the little Vietnamese woman, I realize that I will never know what made him this way.”

“Even though I was just two weeks in country, and I was many years older than them, they were only 17 while I was already in my mid twenties, I know that they must have been through a lot of unspeakable things, or else they wouldn’t’ have turned out this way.”

“Even though I will never know what they were trying to overcome, what they had seen and endured to be so completely numb and brutal (according to my vets, this complete numbness to other people’s pain is very common with PTSD), I honor that it must have been more than they were able to take – it broke them.

When we tapped along those statements, he cleared up. He could now see that his buddies were severely traumatized, too, so much so that they had cut out everything human, they were raging.

He didn’t have to find excuses for them, or ways to condone what happened. Instead he could now see the other soldiers and himself, and the Vietnamese lady, as victims of a raging, brutal war that cost more that humanly imaginable. Even though there is no way to excuse what happened, he found a way to forgiveness that allowed him to see things in a broader light. The acknowledgement “Yes, they were very, very messed up, and I never asked myself why that was, what they had seen!” was huge for him.

He is still honoring the little lady and her death, and will always do so, but now not with all the rage that he was carrying all these years. And when he thinks about the soldiers on the truck, he continues to hold them responsible, but can see them in the context of their own trauma, which, just like himself, might have started many years before they joined the military.

It was beautiful to see the lightness around him, after he released this burden, and he felt that he wanted to go on now, and, after taking a good nap, tackle some other memories that have haunted him for more than 40 years.

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Parachute accident: A Vietnam Veteran’s healing story http://www.eftforvets.com/282/a-vietnam-veterans-healing-story/ http://www.eftforvets.com/282/a-vietnam-veterans-healing-story/#comments Sun, 20 Dec 2009 05:34:03 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/282/a-vietnam-veterans-healing-story/ Gordon, a Vietnam Veteran, suffers from insomnia and nightmares, hyper vigilance, numbness, feelings of undeservingness and low self esteem, loss of interest, lack of energy and angry outbursts.
Even though Gordon received medication from the VA, he was still haunted by traumatic memories from Vietnam, which made his life very difficult. He decided to try EFT for some of them.
One of the most traumatic memories for him was, when he jumped out of an airplane, and his parachute didn’t open. Gordon had enormous feelings of overwhelm and helplessness, as well as anger and sadness around this incident.

First, we tapped on all aspects of anger, the meaninglessness of him facing to have to die like this, his anger that nobody cared about putting his life in jeopardy:

Karate point (KP):“Even though I don’t even want to think about what happened, I am just so tired of getting intense about it, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
”Even though I feel overwhelmed with this memory, it still feels completely real to me, and I never got over that, I allow myself to feel safe now.”
”Even though I am mad as hell that we had to go through this, I deeply and completely allow myself to see that I made it anyway (stating the obvious).
Even though they made us jump into a war zone, and I am mad and hurt that nobody gave a dime for our lives, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
”Even though I am sad for all that happened, I still feel like a victim, I choose to find it surprisingly easy to claim my power back now.”

After doing a few rounds of EFT like this, he felt relaxed and ready enough to begin.
Using the “tell the story” technique, we inched our way through this memory and tapped on all the aspects we could find. He remembered how he had to get ready for the jump and didn’t want to embarrass himself by showing fear, and he felt his intensity rising.

So we tapped on: ““Even though I feel apprehensive, I didn’t want to embarrass myself, just know what happened after, and I don’t want to go there, I deeply and completely accept myself”.

Then he felt ready to describe how he did the jump and was falling, when he realized, that his parachute didn’t open.
“Even though I was free falling and the parachute didn’t open, what a very dangerous and horrific situation, I choose to allow myself to see that I made it out of this alive.”
“Even though I was free falling, and my life was threatened because the parachute didn’t open, I chose to allow myself to finally relax about this now.”
“Even though it is so scary just to think about this incident, and all that came after, I choose to find it realistic and appropriate to release this memory now, in a way that works for me.”

Then he moved on to talk about what was going on in his mind when he realized that the pull was rusted, and when he manually pulled it, the reserve opened underneath it, and beginning to cause the main parachute to collapse.
“Even though my parachute caused me to almost die, here I am, jumping into a war zone, and what is supposed to keep me safe is not reliable, I deeply and completely accept that I am still alive now.”
“Even though after 40 years I remember and relive the parachute incident as if it was still happening, I deeply and completely accept my safety.”

Then he remembered how he realized that he was falling right onto the parachute of a comrade who was right underneath him, considering going down with him, but realizing that this would be too dangerous for his friend.
So he walked of the edge and continued his fall.

“Even though I almost touched his parachute and caused my brother to die to, I choose to see that we both made it down safely.”
“Even though I feel guilty that this happened, I allow myself to realize that I didn’t choose this, I was a victim of an accident, too.”
“Even though I feel overwhelmed by how helpless I was, and I never found the courage to trust myself again, I choose to see that I had the cool to make all the right decisions in that situation.”
Gordon managed to get away from his friend and decided to cut his reserve lose, which then wrapped itself around his head so that he couldn’t see.

“Even though I couldn’t see, there was just no end of this horror, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I am angry about all this, I choose to see that I must be one hell of a parachuter or else I wouldn’t have made all the right decisions intuitively.”

Finally only hanging of his main parachute, he heard the call “get ready for landing”, and hit the ground hard. After regaining his consciousness, he realized that he must have had a concussion, but was otherwise unharmed.

A Drill Sergeant had watched the drama and ran over to him, asking if he was OK. When he confirmed, he was immediately ordered to go back on position. Nobody acknowledged what he had been through; there was no counseling, no support, and no compassion. He was left completely alone.

“The military way of dealing with situations like that is to move on immediately and get busy, so you don’t think about it too much.” “George” explained to me, but this dangerous incident overshadowed from now on how he felt about himself (I am a victim), his safety (what is supposed to safe you can kill you), and his trust (they didn’t even want to help, my pain was ignored and he was supposed to work through this alone.)

Interestingly, after we finished the tapping, there were two shifts for Gordon:
First of all, he was now able to recall the situation in all its detail without becoming intense about it again. He recognized that he made it out alive, and that all this happened 40 years ago and never happened again.
Secondly, and that was truly wonderful to hear, he all of a sudden found power and increased self esteem in this story.

During a follow up call, he reported that he became aware during our session, that he must be one hell of a parachuter to be able to keep his cool and manage the list of life threatening situations the way he did. “I never saw myself in control, as the situation was so dangerous. But I realize now, that I did everything right and I must have it in me!”
This shift was huge for Gordon, as it allowed for him to move on with his life with a different self esteem now.

I talked with him seven months later, and asked him how he was doing with that incident now:
He still feels neutral about it, not numb (which would still be a response), but stress free and calm. The incident has no impact on his life anymore.
At the time, Gordon and I could only do two EFT sessions total, and he is aware that there are more memories that deserve to be released with EFT. I am looking forward to continuing to work with him whenever he is ready.

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