EFT 4 Military Families – EFT4Vets http://www.eftforvets.com Healing War Trauma, One Soldier At A Time Tue, 05 Sep 2017 19:32:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8.2 http://www.eftforvets.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/cropped-Screenshot-2015-08-10-14.58.19-32x32.png EFT 4 Military Families – EFT4Vets http://www.eftforvets.com 32 32 Anger Management for PTSD: Three Steps to Transforming Rage with EFT Coaching- EFT Podcast http://www.eftforvets.com/1144/anger-management-for-ptsd-three-steps-to-transforming-rage-with-eft-coaching-eft-podcast/ http://www.eftforvets.com/1144/anger-management-for-ptsd-three-steps-to-transforming-rage-with-eft-coaching-eft-podcast/#comments Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:17:45 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=1144 Anger Management is a very important skill for troops who suffer from PTSD and their families, as well as those who want to help them.

In my experience with EFT for Veterans, rage happens when a person had to endure situations that are unforgivable, inexcusable and that violate what he/she believes in.

I have yet to see a soldier that is not outraged about something that he saw, was exposed to, did or couldn’t prevent from happening.

Even though EFT can take the charge out of those memories, in my experience, there are three steps necessary to truly release rage:

Acknowledgement of what happened without judgment

Releasing the intensity with EFT tapping

Transformation of the experience, to find a deeper meaning and new purpose.

Please click on the link below to listen to the EFT Tapping podcast interview with Ingrid Dinter, conducted by Jondi Whitis from TapFest Radio




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Interview with Vietnam Veteran Bob Culver about EFT and Healing PTSD http://www.eftforvets.com/1008/interview-with-vietnam-veteran-bob-culver-about-eft-and-healing-ptsd/ Thu, 25 Nov 2010 08:36:21 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=1008 One of the men that I had the honor to meet in San Francisco, during the filming of the documentary “Operation: Emotional Freedom” was Bob Culver.

Bob had a life long journey of trauma even before joining the military, and had suffered from PTSD for decades.

Bob has been an inspiration in his dedication to move forward with tapping, no matter what life threw at him.

Here is an interview that I took with him recently.

Click Here for the Interview with Bob Culver about his experiences with EFT since he came home from the San Francisco retreat

After returning from San Francisco, Bob continued to work as an institutional chef, until his apartment caught fire and the house burned down to the ground, with all his belongings.

Thanks to the generosity of caring Veterans and people that knew him through the video, we could gather enough finances for Bob to help him relocate to North Carolina, where his daughter and grandchild live.

About ten months later, the job situation forced him to take a short term job in Massachusetts, however, he now decided to return to North Carolina to be closer to his family and the new grandchild.

Bob does not have an easy life, but EFT has helped him tremendously to stay focused and calm, no matter what life throws at him.

He strongly believes that every day tapping is crucial for long term success, and he is an amazing inspiration for many others who share military trauma and live with the consequences very day.

Bob’s message is:” Try it once and see for yourself”.

He will gladly connect with Veterans and other people who would like to learn more about EFT.

Bob can be reached as “Bob Culver” via facebook, or leave a comment below.

UPDATE: Today, November 24th 2010, Bob announced the birth of his second granddaughter Gabriela!


14 Easy Steps To Help Military Families, Not Just On Thanksgiving http://www.eftforvets.com/965/14-easy-steps-to-help-military-families-not-just-on-thanksgiving/ Tue, 23 Nov 2010 16:17:36 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=965
4 Thanksgiving Turkeys by Mother and Son!

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Getting through the holidays with while the father or mother is deployed is a great challenge for many military families.

Asking for help is difficult for anybody, but for these families it is especially hard:

Many of their needs are not temporary, but rather long term, and they expect of themselves to find a way to make it through the deployment with their own resources only.
They often feel misunderstood, as their situation is hard to comprehend by families who don’t have a loved one overseas.

As a cancer survivor, who learned firsthand the enormous feeling of strength and gratitude that comes from a reliable support chain of caring friends in difficult times, I’d like to make a suggestion:

If you know a military family who has a loved one overseas, don’t ask if they need anything, but assume that they do.

If one “best friend” steps forward and addresses the church, school or sports team that the family belongs to, and is able to find 16 people who commit to sending one meal per month, the family will receive four meals per week.

– If you can find 10 parents who are willing to offer a play date for a military kid after school care for a once per month, this child can feel loved and supported by many friends, while the mother, father or grandparent gets a break.

– If 4 community members are willing to ask what groceries are needed once a month, and run this errand for the mother, she doesn’t have to  worry about getting her shopping issues done and can spend more time playing with the kids.

– If 4 people can be found to plow the driveway after a snowstorm, the coming winter will not be as hard.
– And if 4 families decided to take turns taking kids over night every other weekend, the military wife or husband could get out of the house with a friend and socialize. This would be invaluable relief for  the isolation that many families report.

It can be done, if the community comes together and organizes this proactively.

The trick is, to offer the support without being asked, and to provide a reliable support system that lasts until the returning soldier has settled in (or maybe beyond that).

Many family members share that they are overwhelmed with their new tasks but don’t want their loved one to worry.

Imagine the relief and gratitude overseas, when the soldiers know that they are supported by their communities.
This is truly meaningful, personal support that can be done easily, when a group of people comes together and shares the support chain in a way that is comfortable for them

Here is a checklist of how to set this up:

1)    Address the church, school or other community that the family is a member of
2)    Describe the situation of  the family and have volunteers sign up
3)    Ask specifically what can be offered easily and consistently ntil the soldier comes home. If it is  too much work, it will be hard to keep going  through the entire deployment cycle
4)    Make sure that at least one meal per week is on the list
5)    Ask for special skills (bookkeeping, organizing, handy man talent, cleaning support…) that might be available
6)    Ask who is willing to add another shopping list to  their own or run another errand regularly
7)    Put a list of possible play dates together


8)    Approach the family and tell them what you have organized (it will be easier to accept this way)
9)    Have them give specific requests and needs (foods, supplies, clothes,…)
10)    Have all the supporters make the commitment they can make and put it in the calendar
11)    Get their email addresses and phone numbers
12)    Create a website online, where the menus can be posted, information exchanged and specific needs expressed http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com is one free option
13)    Then it is just a matter of sending weekly or monthly updates to  everybody, reminding them of  their specific day to help
14)    Important: If you are willing to organize this support chain, make sure you get others to help you, too.

Imagine how a soldier, who is worried about his spouse and three young children, will feel when he learns that his community has committed to support his family while he is gone. This will last a life time, and it will change the families of the helpers, too.

But the trick is to make the first step and not wait for the military family to ask for help. Chances are they won’t do it.
Happy Thanksgiving!

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How military families heal a Veteran http://www.eftforvets.com/325/how-military-families-heal-a-veteran/ Tue, 29 Dec 2009 22:07:21 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/325/how-military-families-heal-a-veteran/ Research shows that most Veterans prefer to talk to a family member or buddy over talking to a professional. When I first began to help Veterans with EFT, I needed to understand as much as possible why this would be the case, what it is that makes Veterans feel that they get more healing from talking with a spouse or friend than with someone who is trained to help them release trauma.

There is much to be said about this, and it will be material for many posts and the book I am writing. However, I think that, besides the natural trust bonus that family and friends have over a professional, an important factor is that those close to us take the time to listen with compassion.

My Veterans tell me how hard it is to not have a professional available at the time when they need him or her the most: at 11:30 pm when nightmares haunt, after having endured a challenging situation, while being in an uncomfortable public environment, that lets hyper vigilance flare up, and every person behind a curtain seem like a potential threat. If they have to make appointments that are weeks away, if they know already that they will not have 15 minutes, not enough time to truly explain and work  through what happened, if they are challenged by the fear that they might just be given a drug, without being truly listened to, if they have the slightest fear that they might be judged for what they have been through, there is a very good chance that Veterans will not reach out but rather talk to a person in their most immediate circle, a spouse or friend.

Families can offer comfort and time, availability and trust, and non judgmental listening, while they are doing whatever they can to help their loved one heal and relax.

EFT in the hands of a compassionate spouse or friend is a magical  tool to support the healing process in amazing, astounding ways. It is  my hope that all military families in the future will be  trained to use EFT effectively as a self help tool for themselves and their soldiers.

EFT – a true solution for war trauma http://www.eftforvets.com/50/eft-a-true-solution-for-war-trauma/ Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:26:14 +0000 http://www.eftforvets.com/?p=50 According to the Rand study , only about 25% of soldiers who need help for either PTSD, depression or TBI are currently receiving minimally adequate care, while the number of those who receive adequate care must be estimated to be even lower. Only about 50% of those who need help for these conditions are currently reaching out for help.

Some of the reasons why soldiers are not reaching out are:

The medication that might help have too many side effects (45%)

It could harm my career (44%)

I could be denied a security clearance (44%)

My family or friends would be more helpful  than a mental health professional (39%)

My coworkers would have less confidence inn me if they found out (38%).

When I first read these statistics, I thought: “Curious that they consider the fourth reason a barrier. I see it as a wide open door!

It is obvious that most Veterans prefer to speak with a buddy or their spouse over consulting with a mental halth professional. The numbers show clearly, and military spouses confirm this, that most of  the trauma is being dealt with within the family and circle of close friends.

But are they prepared for  this responsible and overwhelming task? What tools do they have, other than their love, compassion and willingness to help, to assist their soldier? And how are they being helped themselves, to deal with their own, intense version of  the trauma of war?

I believe, that with EFT, we have a true chance to offer profound support:

The need within the Veterans’ support system tools that:

– don’t require a background in mental health ( as most spouses don’t have that, either)

– can be taught easily to ley people and even kids

– properly applied, have no known side effects

– work without purchasing expensive equipment or training

– don’t require the focus on trauma to work

– can helpt to take the emotional edge of, even if a Veteran doesn’t want to talk

– create community

– can be used by buddies at the frontlines

– Vets can use to help others and themselves

– can be easily incorporated into other therapies

– can be used as a self help tool

– bring measurable results

– can be applied via internet and phone

– are always accessible, even in the middle of the night, when nightmares haunt

EFT does fulfill all these requirements. It is a powerful, effective self helptool, that should  be taught to everybody within the military community. IOnce all military personel and those who love and care about them, can use EFT effectively, it is my belief that the number of suizides and PTSD victims will go down.