Why is it so tough to reach out to Veterans?

If you are interested in helping Veterans and their families heal, you will have made the experience that the military community in general is not exactly open and excited about healing offers. Most Veterans acknowledge the work and express gratitude, but are far from asking for help for themselves.

This is hard to understand for those who want to help, and rather disheartening and frustrating.

Many give up, leave their good intentions out there but withdraw from actively reaching out.

If we want to make a difference on a larger scale, we need to understand that the toughest thing for helping Veterans heal is NOT to release the trauma, but to find ways to help them TRUST us!

Having a tool that works as well as EFT doesn’t mean that Vets are interested in connecting with us. There is a LOT more understanding about Military mindset and many insights are necessary to prove ourselves worthy and trustworthy.

If we don’t understand this, we will not succeed in making a difference to many, but only connect with a few.

We need to realize that we are truly entering a into a new field here. Offering EFT coaching and EFT as a self help tool on a large scale is not something that has happened in the  past.

We have to do our homework, not just in EFT but in what being in the Military means, what specific trauma the different wars, the different branches of the military, the different trainings entail.

I trust that those who are interested in offering EFT to Veterans have a solid background and education and are truly skilled not just in the basics, but in advanced applications of the technique.

But there are very specific things that need to be understood and related to when it comes to releasing war trauma:

What is a warrior?

What are military values?

What does the training require and entail?

What are specific traumatic events that most have suffered from, even if they don’t realize that they have?

Which place do we need to take as practitioners in the healing relationship to truly make a difference?

Which questions should we never ask? Which questions do we need to ask?

What is the spiritual difference between someone who has developed PTSD and someone who has not?

How can we prevent the development if we start tapping early enough?

What is truly happening in war that causes these symptoms to appear?

And should we really not offer support to soldiers who have only a few symptoms?

There is SO much to learn and understand, and I believe that taking the time to commit to learning in crucial to be successful in reaching out.

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One Response to “Why is it so tough to reach out to Veterans?”

  1. Beth E. Baker at

    Dear Ingrid,

    YES!!! All you say about how it is being known to them as truly worthy of their trust that is _the_ challenge in working with Vets (and all military), far more than helping them heal their trauma. I am so glad you\\\’ve clearly pointed this out.

    And your list of pertinent questions is simply brilliant and entirely practical. Thank you so very much. I continue seeking to commit all the time and effort necessary to become fully qualified to offer effective facilitation to our Vets and their families. I am watching for when you will be offering training in this again.