Veterans healing from betrayal and anger
Many Veterans have a deeply ingrained feeling of betrayal and anger about it. Here is a video that might help you relax:
As a healing practitioner, it is important that we honor and acknowledge this experience and feeling: They often come from the soul, from the deepest source or core of being that a person is able to perceive.
Betrayal has many faces, but no matter what someone has experienced, he or she will most likely feel anger and rage about it. When I work with a Veteran, I always check for this feeling very early on. I find that many people find it relatively easy to talk about feeling cheated and betrayed. Betrayal is usually something that can be at least partially blamed on another person or group, and there are memories and arguments to prove that the client has every right to feel the way he or she does. When a Veteran begins to talk about feeling betrayed, it is important not to judge, but to listen with compassion and confirm the betrayal. Whatever a veterans shares is is important to him or her, and we can trust that he is sharing it the best way he can.
As friends, family or healing practitioners of a warrior, we can hold a reliable space of confirmation and support beyond judgment. We don’t have to condone what happened, what someone endured or did, we can focus on helping him or her heal. With “EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques”, we tap on releasing the anger and resentment, not because what happened was right, but because it is over and the only person truly suffering from it tremendously is the client. What was wrong can remain wrong in the clients perception, and he does not even have to share it with us in detail, but he can take the charge out of it with EFT anyway, but we should not have to suffer from it. It is comforting to know that we can take the charge out of such a traumatic betrayal with EFT, and find a new way of dealing with what happened. Weather a Veteran feels betrayed by a friend, his family, the military, a partner, the people of his country, politics, war, or life itself, we need to acknowledge this feeling deeply and confirm that we listen with compassion and without judgment. Our job is not to condone or excuse what happened, it is to help heal what happened. And using appropriate language with EFT, we can help take the charge out of the anger and rage and allow for the person to move forward in his life in a new way that feels appropriate and truly works for him.